- Children's brains aren't wired to follow directions - Listening and following directions involves the cognitive ability called executive function. The part of the brain that manages executive functioning isn't fully developed until age 25.
- Parents use way too many words - Adults rely on verbal communication, and children struggle to process language. Use plain language!
- Parents don't allow for think time for children - Children need time to process what you're asking of them. Ask them in plain language, then allow for processing time.
- Parents give directions that are vague - For example, if you tell your child it's time to get ready for school, what does that mean? Give clear and concise directions, and split the directions into one- or two-step directions.
- Your child genuinely doesn't understand - Your child might have a language disorder or delay, or you just might be using vocabulary they don't understand, or they could be distracted! Give a direction and then check to make sure your child understands!
- Your child loses focus - Sometimes there are competing factors or distractions going on when you give your child a direction. Work with your child to limit distractions, and work to filter out the unimportant information.
- You need to establish a routine - Each child's routine is different, but if you establish your own routine that they can follow they'll know what's being asked of them because it'll become predictable.
- You might be using too much constructive criticism - Instead of correcting your child's behavior all the time, try pointing out the positive things you see they did "I see you got your toothbrush out the first time I asked you! Thank you!"
- Your child has developed bad habits - This happens! Work with your child to break some of their bad habits, but remember habits take time and consistency to break!
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